Equal doesn’t always have to be equal. You don’t have to always give equal treats, equal attention, equal time and equal toys to your children. You need to only give these things in the approximate amount that each child needs, and your children will perceive that as equal and fair. 

Do there seem to be endless battles in your house? Are you constantly asked to be the judge of sibling squabbles? Are both children jealous of each other and competing for your attention? Dealing with sibling rivalry and conflict can be very challenging, but following a few simple tips can help you find its source and develop practical solutions.

Famed psychologist of the 1960’s, Haim Ginott, came up with some amazing parenting ideas. I’ve synthesized his work with some of my own ideas and added explanation and advice, as follows.

Every parent has gone through a period where their child refuses to follow instructions. Children often misbehave or disobey because a want or need is not being met. When we, as parents, recognize why our children are being uncooperative, we can take steps to improve communication and compliance. The following parenting tips can help you address behavior challenges so you no longer have to think, “I don’t know how to get my child to obey.” Please bear in mind that the following principles represent a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfill them perfectly. Therefore, have patience with yourself and try to implement new ideas gradually.

Almost every parent has thought at some point, “I don’t know how to get my child to cooperate.” You may feel like you are at your wits’ end, unsure what else you can try to improve your child’s behavior and compliance. The following suggestions are based on the work of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, renowned parenting experts, synthesized with my own ideas that come from my research, training and experience helping parents and children learn to communicate and cooperate. Please bear in mind that the principles I offer here represent a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfil them perfectly. Have patience with yourself and your child, and try to implement new ideas gradually.

It can be unhealthy or disruptive to allow your child to do whatever he or she wants whenever he or she wants. You have to limit his or her behavior for everyone’s safety and well-being. However, your child can and should be able to feel anything he or she needs or wants to feel. Feelings are involuntary and automatic. We cannot control them and they are not the result of choice. Therefore, we should not be held responsible for how we feel, even if it is uncomfortable to someone else. You must accept and validate your child’s feelings if you wish to foster greater emotional health and resiliency. 

In their classic book “How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk”, Faber and Mazlish, international experts on parent-child communication, list five amazing techniques to deal with children’s difficult or oppositional behaviors and emotions. By describing, giving information, saying with one word, saying how you feel and writing notes, you can learn how to get your child to listen. In this post, I’ve synthesized Faber’s and Mazlish’s thoughts with my own ideas on how to gain a child’s cooperation and added elucidation. Please bear in mind that the following principles represent a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfil them perfectly. Therefore, have patience with yourself and try to implement new ideas gradually.

Please bear in mind that the following principles represent a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfill them perfectly. Therefore have patience with yourself and try to implement new ideas gradually. With these tips, you can learn how to get your child to go to sleep or eat.

The following list will explore the top 10 things parents worry about, and why it’s okay to let go of those fears. Please bear in mind that the following principles represent a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfill them perfectly. Therefore, have patience with yourself and try to implement new ideas gradually.

During and after the separation, it is crucial to remember this point. Parents’ fighting severely traumatizes children. He fears that if Mommy and Daddy are going to abandon each other, then they will abandon him too. This is called an abandonment annihilation trauma. He further fears that if his parents are going to mistreat each other, they will mistreat him too. If you need to argue, put on the T.V. loudly and go behind closed doors. It’s hard to stick by this rule when passions flare up, but it pays to try your best.

Are you struggling with a parenting challenge? Do you receive parenting advice from friends, family and other sources but question whether it is accurate or if it is really best for your child? The following parenting myths are based on my clinical and teaching experience, and my experience raising my own four boys, as well as research into the literature on parenting and the wise guidance of my mentors.

In many families, it can be extremely challenging figuring out how to get your child to brush their teeth. He or she may be getting cavities, the dentist is complaining, but your child simply does not want to brush. It has become a battle of wills and everyone is losing.

The following important tips for a new parent comes from my experience raising my own four boys, my clinical experience working with parents, research I’ve done on parenting infants, and the wise counsel of my mentors. Please be advised that this represents a parenting ideal, and I don’t expect anyone to fulfill it perfectly. Rather have patience with yourself and try to incorporate new ideas gradually.

Parenting requires a great deal of patience. Children can really press our buttons, and sometimes, you may need to really work hard to keep calm. They can constantly ask us for things, and it can feel overwhelming because their requests seem endless. But there is someone else who also deserves generous patience. You. It is okay to cut yourself slack and have patience with your progress as a parent. Changing old habits is a process, and it must be done gradually. It’s like a doctor that gives you medicine and says, “Take one pill every day for two weeks.” What if you said, “I’m going to get better really fast. I’m going to take all 14 pills in one day!” How well would that work? The same goes for parenting counseling.